The pros, cons of dating in a small college
October 8, 2013
It is the peak of your sexual prime; you are finally in the college environment. You have a fresh start and you are available, this could be a positive and a negative aspect depending on your situational standpoint.
Pros:
With less people enrolled at a private college, you get to know people much more personally. Meeting multiple people at the same time can become intimidating when you are in a massive group of other students.
By going to a small school, the likelihood of getting the attention on yourself is ideal for getting that special someone to notice you from across the room.
It is also likely that people you know may have a connection to this person. Networking through friends on a small campus is easy and quick. Sure, you could Facebook stalk them, but nothing competes to getting information on your love interest through an actual person.
Now that you are finally one-on-one with this potential mate, you can get a better understanding of them as a person.
This could be your possible soul mate, most people meet their lifelong lovers in college, the importance of having compatibility with this other person is vital.
Living on an enclosed campus makes visiting this person simple. Plans can be made to meet up for Starbucks in between classes or you can visit each other’s dorm rooms.
Just make sure you hang something off the doorknob to let your roommate know that you are both bonding.
Cons:
Let’s say you went to a fraternity party over the weekend and you were not exactly your sober self.
If you do not want to remember what went down with someone, then this is where these interpersonal connections can turn its back on you.
Gossip is a given when everyone knows each other. The talk could harm, or if you are lucky, better your reputation. Your name and actions may always be associated with the other person’s. If you mess up, everyone will know all of the details of how it went down.
With this tight-knit community, it is hard to escape seeing the other person around. Sure, you can pretend to be on your phone while they walk by, but that will not stop the fact that seeing your ex is unavoidable.
Living in dorms, you tend to always run into the person before you are presentable for public viewing. Especially if you live in co-ed housing, or are involved in a fraternity and or sorority, temptations could be overwhelming.
It is college and a lot of people are not always ready to find their future spouses, so commitment is not always guaranteed. Getting attached is definitely unpleasant when you are not monogamous with this person, in actuality they will sleep with anything that is just as willing.
Either way, dating in college is supposed to be enjoyable as long as it is healthy and you are getting some action. It does not really matter what an article in the school newspaper says.
If you find yourself reading this article, you were probably questioning your confidence of the relationship in the first place.
In the end, it is a liberal arts school in Oregon, there is not much else to expect anything other than sexually frustrated students.
Rosa Johnson / Copy editor
and a negative aspect depending on your situational standpoint.
Pros:
With less people enrolled at a private college, you get to know people much more personally. Meeting multiple people at the same time can become intimidating when you are in a massive group of other students.
By going to a small school, the likelihood of getting the attention on yourself is ideal for getting that special someone to notice you from across the room.
It is also likely that people you know may have a connection to this person. Networking through friends on a small campus is easy and quick. Sure, you could Facebook stalk them, but nothing competes to getting information on your love interest through an actual person.
Now that you are finally one-on-one with this potential mate, you can get a better understanding of them as a person.
This could be your possible soul mate, most people meet their lifelong lovers in college, the importance of having compatibility with this other person is vital.
Living on an enclosed campus makes visiting this person simple. Plans can be made to meet up for Starbucks in between classes or you can visit each other’s dorm rooms.
Just make sure you hang something off the doorknob to let your roommate know that you are both bonding.
Cons:
Let’s say you went to a fraternity party over the weekend and you were not exactly your sober self.
If you do not want to remember what went down with someone, then this is where these interpersonal connections can turn its back on you.
Gossip is a given when everyone knows each other. The talk could harm, or if you are lucky, better your reputation. Your name and actions may always be associated with the other person’s. If you mess up, everyone will know all of the details of how it went down.
With this tight-knit community, it is hard to escape seeing the other person around. Sure, you can pretend to be on your phone while they walk by, but that will not stop the fact that seeing your ex is unavoidable.
Living in dorms, you tend to always run into the person before you are presentable for public viewing. Especially if you live in co-ed housing, or are involved in a fraternity and or sorority, temptations could be overwhelming.
It is college and a lot of people are not always ready to find their future spouses, so commitment is not always guaranteed. Getting attached is definitely unpleasant when you are not monogamous with this person, in actuality they will sleep with anything that is just as willing.
Either way, dating in college is supposed to be enjoyable as long as it is healthy and you are getting some action. It does not really matter what an article in the school newspaper says.
If you find yourself reading this article, you were probably questioning your confidence of the relationship in the first place.
In the end, it is a liberal arts school in Oregon, there is not much else to expect anything other than sexually frustrated students.